Of all the emotions your teen faces, anger can pose a unique challenge. Releasing anger in heated moments is no small feat, particularly when coupled with stress. Show your teen you care by supporting them through proper methods of anger management for teens. Here are five ways to guide your angry teenager toward healthy responses for relieving emotions and stress.
1.) Model healthy habits for your teen when you are angry.
Even when we may not realize it, teens are watching how we respond to challenges. So, in moments of frustration and anger, seize the opportunity. Taking responsibility for your own emotions, stepping back from the situation to cool down, and/or channeling your anger into something productive (like exercise) exemplifies a good response for your angry teen. If you overreact, own your emotions and use the moment as a springboard for discussion.
2.) Table the conversation for the moment.
Teenage emotions can be overwhelming, and sometimes, they just need a moment to calm down. A few minutes of quiet can de-escalate most situations, and by giving your angry teen space and time to regroup, you’re showing that you respect their emotions enough to wait until they are ready to share. Once the tension has lifted, be sure to maintain an open mind as you enter into conversation.
3.) Acknowledge the root of how your teen is feeling.
Anger can be a healthy reaction to injustice, but only when expressed productively or in a way that doesn’t harm others. More often than not, there is something significant behind your teen’s anger; a heavy stressor or a delayed reaction to an earlier situation. The key is to identify the root of the cause, particularly if your teen is rebelling or easily angered. Be sure to parent from a place of love, communicate consistently and engage in a support system if you need it. Here are some signs your teen may be in the middle of a difficult season.
4.) Truly listen to what your teen has to share.
Listening can be a difficult aspect of communication, especially with a struggling or angry teenager. When your teen does share, take the time to take the time to be present and listen well. Reserve your own opinions; simply showing your teen that you can be a trusted sounding board can help calm your teen and relieve their anger.
5.) Be aware of patterns in anger, because it could be a symptom of something larger.
The National Alliance on Mental Health reports that a staggering one in five children ages 13 – 18 live with a mental health condition. Although your teen may appear angry on the surface, this emotion could indicate a serious underlying problem, like anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, drug abuse or alcohol abuse. If you suspect this could be the case, expand the conversation and start the conversation about mental health.
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